A Quick Pep Talk.
Pull your bloody socks up. Quit moaning and do something.
Social media
I just had a session on social media. I know it’s not good for me. But I always wonder what half the people posting hope to achieve with their posts.
From racist rants to moaning about vegans on vegan pages, the hate is rife. I’m always banging on about how social media is toxic and to avoid it where possible. I only go on there to keep in touch with my bosses and for work, but even I can’t resist a little doom scroll occasionally.
What do people hope to gain on there? I don’t get it.
Do they think the world will change and that they will become rich and successful, or change the world’s ethics overnight, by making cryptic statements about other people and moaning about how bad this or that is, how rubbish their job is, how fed up with the school systems, housing associations or the local crime rates they are?
Will the lords of Facebook see the post and shout, “BEHOLD! A LONE voice of reason among all those terrible woke types. We shall bestow upon Linda and her incredible knowledge of how the world works our very own fortune so that she may solve the world's problems.” Or will nothing actually happen, and the OP just sits there moaning to themselves with the occasional “I know, hun, pm me” from Kevin and Marie in the comments to keep them brewing on it?
We are responsible for our own happiness. Nobody else can be happy on your behalf.
Miserable? Quit making excuses, pull your finger out and do something to make yourself happy. There. I said it.
Depression
Yes, depression is a thing. Anxiety is a thing. Mental illness is a thing. None of those are nice, but they are a thing. I know, as I have them. But they are things that once you know you have them, you can choose not to let them beat you. Easier said than done, for sure. But it is doable. You must want to feel better and stop at nothing until you do. Make it your life’s mission to sort it out and feel better.
Go to the doctors, do the counselling, and if that doesn’t work, try another doctor and some different kind of help.
Don’t just let it happen.
Fight it. Nobody else will fight it for you.
Change your life, change your world.
It always amazes me how many people moan and whine about life, the state of the world, or their situation, but when you ask them what they are doing about it, crickets. If you don’t try to improve your situation when there are options, you don’t moan about it. Simple.
ANYONE from any walk of life can at least try to improve their own world.
While there are situations that are genuinely out of our control, such as abuse, disease, famine, and grief, there are so many more that we can have influence over.
Don’t like how the country is going? Sitting on your laptop in your mum’s spare bedroom, trolling social media pages of things you disagree with, will not get you very far and is a one-way ticket to getting increasingly annoyed. Do something useful instead. Get involved with politics. Or at the very least, get off your ass and vote. Think it won’t make a difference? Well the other millions of votes did, they must have done, or you wouldn’t be in a position where you are sitting there all pissed off now.
Fed up with being skint and having no money? Well, start looking for ways to earn some, spend less or improve your situation through education so you can lift yourself financially in the future. We are currently in a global financial shitshow, but more millionaires were created during the Great Depression than at any other time in history. Think outside the box. Retrain. Stop sitting on your hands and work out what people currently need, what service you can give, and how you can be useful and make money. Or, at the very least, try to. But don’t just sit around moaning. That will not make you a penny.
Want to get healthier and happier? Go outside daily, walk if you can, or at least hear the birds and see a flower or a tree. Sure, it’s an effort to step outside sometimes, but do it anyway, and you will feel better. Can’t go outside for some reason? Open a bloody window. Just get some fresh air in your lungs.
Discontent with life? Stop making excuses and make some changes. Work out what you want in life, and then start planning exactly how to make your wishes come true. Nobody else is going to do it for you.
Phew.
See you next week,
Freya xx